Its easier to live in harmony when you know yourself and the person youre living with. Not know as in, Why, hi, Im Bob, glad to know you, want to live with me? But more like know as in youve spent quality time and effort to figure out how you and your partner think (process information) and react to a wide range of (often unobvious) challenges. Most of this book offers things to think/talk about that may not have occurred to you. Thats because were usually blind to the ways weve been brought up; we dont often think about how we think and we dont often challenge our own beliefs. Friction arises from these areas of invisibility. Once the veil is lifted, and once you realize how youve been controlled and influenced by your personal upbringing, youre in the enviable position of being empowered to choose to stay that way or to change. All change will affect your relationship. These changes, themselves, may well improve your relationship(s) to the point that more heavy-duty